frequently asked questions

about portmanteau

  • Portmanteau is a dating coaching service in Singapore that helps men become better partners through practical coaching in dating apps, communication, first dates, confidence and personal presentation.

    Unlike matchmaking services, I don't find dates for you. I help you build the skills to create better dating experiences yourself.

  • No. (Not yet, anyway!)

    I don't introduce you to women or maintain a database of singles.

    Instead, I coach you on the practical skills that make dating easier - from your dating profile to conversations, first dates and everything that comes after.

  • Pickup artists rely on toxic scripts, manipulation, and high-volume rejection.

    portmanteau works only with men who are looking for serious, intentional, long-term relationships. There are no canned lines or psychological mind games here.

  • Most of my clients are professional men in Singapore in their 30s.

    Many are already doing well in their careers but feel confused or fatigued by modern dating. They're often getting few matches, struggling to move conversations offline or wondering why dates don't progress. Some are returning to the dating world after some time away, and some just feel like they’re not being seen.

    Whatever your challenge, I would love to work with you.

  • You can reach Ting anytime via our contact page. I do aim to respond quickly - usually within one business day.

logistics

  • Both.

    Most coaching is conducted over Google Meet, although selected sessions, such as The Makeover or practice dates for The Long Game are conducted in person in Singapore.

  • That depends on what you’re looking for.

    If you want a Second Opinion or a quick chat with Ting, that can be done in just one session.

    For targeted interventions, we’re looking at a few weeks, depending on your schedule.

    The Long Game comprises of six sessions that take up to 12 weeks, again depending on our schedules.

  • No.

    Nobody can honestly guarantee that.

    What I can promise is thoughtful feedback, practical coaching and a structured approach that helps you become more intentional, self-aware and confident in dating - which increases your chances.

coaching & services

  • If you're unsure and if you’re on dating apps, start with the Second Opinion - it's the quickest way to understand what's helping and what's quietly holding you back.

    If you’re just coming back into the dating world after a relationship, check out Back At It.

    If you’re looking to prep for an event or big date, get in The Room Where It Happens.

    And if you are looking for something deeper and more long-term, The Long Game is for you.

    If you're still not sure, book a private 30-min Quick Hello video call at no charge and no obligations.

    For one-off personal shopping / one-time sessions, check out the a la carte menu.

  • Absolutely.

    Whether you've never used a dating app or you've been dating for years, I will meet you where you are.

    The goal isn't to memorise scripts or "game". It's to understand what good dating looks like and become more intentional in how you approach it.

  • No!

    I'll give you principles, frameworks and feedback rather than scripts.

    Every woman is different. Dating works much better when your conversations sound like you, not like something copied from the internet.

  • Every programme begins with establishing a clear goal and your baseline. We then work through your blockers, your experiences and your beliefs - or we practise and iterate with feedback.

    We then create an action and accountability plan to ensure you follow through and anchor your learnings.

  • Practice sessions are conducted either online or in person, either in parts or as a full mock date.

    You will get real-time feedback on your appearance, your communication and practical, actionable tips to improve your date experiences.

  • Yes - on The Second Opinion.

    Your profile is reviewed as a whole - photos, prompts, bio, consistency and the overall impression you're creating.

  • At the moment, yes.

    portmanteau is currently designed only for men who want serious relationships.

  • No. Coaching is 100% confidential.

    Everything discussed during coaching remains confidential unless disclosure is required by Singapore law or there's a serious risk of harm.

    Many clients value coaching because it's a private space to ask questions they wouldn't normally feel comfortable asking elsewhere.

  • No. You do not get a coach only when you need “help”. You don't hire an executive coach or mentor because you are failing at your job; you hire one to accelerate your trajectory.

    Most of our clients are high-performing PMETs who excel professionally.