DIFFERENT WOMEN, SAME YOU.
private dating coaching for men in singapore stuck in the same patterns
For the capable guy who just can’t work out what’s not working.
$1,390 upfront or 2 x $750
I’M ALREADY TRYING
why does this keep going nowhere?
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i’m sure i’ll find someone eventually…i think
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are my expectations actually realistic?
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why do i keep hearing “no spark” when the date seemed fine?
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i just want to finally be chosen.
the long game is a private dating programme for men who want to figure out why their years of repeated trial and error has just seemed to lead them nowhere, or have a known pattern they want to break.
30-min free and private introductory call with zero obligations
you may be asking yourself:
Do I just need to go on more dates?
Why do my conversations keep dying?
Is there something I’m just missing?
Is dating in Singapore just really bad for men?
Why am I getting so few matches from women I actually like?
What is going on?
Is it just my height / race / face / age / job / bank account?
i promise, these are completely valid (and normal!) questions.
IMPORTANT FIRST NOTE:
❋ this is for you if:
You’re realising that there’s a pattern / issue in your dating life that travels with you.
For e.g. if you repeatedly choose people that aren’t a strong fit, you become too attached to someone before getting to know them properly, if you stay too long because ending things feels uncomfortable, or if you’ve spent years “putting yourself out there” without feeling any closer to the relationship you want.
❋ this is not for you if:
You just want a quick fix. Working on yourself is above all an emotional investment, and is not for you if you just want someone to tell you all the answers.
This is also not for you if you’re not willing to honestly examine yourself and your standards, and do something to change.
If you want a quick snapshot first, try The Second Opinion.
how we turn your effort into real progress you actually want to see
In 6 sessions, excluding our introductory Quick Hello call
❋ diagnose
You might be swiping several times a week and getting some matches, have several conversations that fade, and maybe you’ve even asked friends what’s wrong (they’ve probably said something along the lines of “Nothing! You deserve the right woman and she’ll come along at the right time”). There’s technically no crisis, but you know deep down there might just be something that you might just not be seeing.
That’s what this first session is for - laying the groundwork. We set your post-programme goal, assess where you are, and set boundaries on what we can and cannot do.
❋ what we work on:
Whatever you brought up in the Diagnose session. Sessions are structured around internationally-recognised coaching frameworks, and some topics we may cover are:
How you come across online and in real life
Who you choose
How you behave when you like someone
How you communicate
What you believe about dating and your future partner
Whether your expectations are helping or hurting you
In each session, we work on a specific topic, and create a clear plan of action.
❋ practice and whatsapp support between sessions
The real change doesn’t happen in conversation; it happens in real life. Between each session, you will put into practice your action plan from our conversations, and iterate and adjust accordingly.
You also get WhatsApp access to Wan Ting between sessions for smaller questions you might have.
❋ AAR
Our last session is always a debrief, or After-Action Review. We measure the progress you’ve made from where you started to where you are today, what else you may want to do post-programme, and how you can keep the results you’ve been seeing.
what are you thinking?
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No. I’m a trained coach, not a therapist. We can talk about beliefs, patterns and previous experiences that are relevant to you now, but coaching is always future-focused, and rooted in actions that you can take.
Note: I will recommend therapy if your needs involve deep emotional trauma, mental health disorders, or safety concerns that exceed the scope of professional coaching.
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Appearance matters for sure. Height can matter, race can matter, age can matter. Preferences exist, and I won’t lie to you and tell you that they don’t.
But what I don’t want is for something you cannot change to be the explanation for everything, before we’ve actually examined the things that you can.
Your profile, presentation, partner choices, beliefs, and communication are all testable and changeable. We can work on those.
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Maybe. But “lower your standards” is lazy advice.
There is a difference between a core requirement for a compatible relationship and a preference that has unknowingly become a filter for almost everyone.
And my question to you is - where do your standards come from?
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Of course I can’t, and I do not plan to. But what I can do is work with you to improve what you can control - like your appearance, your beliefs, and how you communicate. These are things that you can actively change and improve.
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Sure they do. But your friends already know you - they do not experience you the same way a stranger does on your first CMB date.
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And they’ll never know! Everything is private and 1-1. We’ll even sign an agreement ensuring full privacy and confidentiality.
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We’ll use your first session to assess your starting point. At our AAR (last session), we’ll reflect on where you are, consolidate what you’ve learnt, and build a plan for your next steps. And honestly, deep down, you’ll know.
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You can wait until you’re 45, no problem. I’ll still be here.
Look. Time may not be the problem right now, but 2 or 3 years passes surprisingly quickly. Another year of smiling politely at Chinese New Year when your nosy auntie asks “why no girlfriend”, another night scrolling through your friend’s IG of his happy life with his wife and two kids. If the life that you want is actually attainable now, why are you stopping yourself from going out and getting it?
CLIENTS REVIEW:
real change happens when you talk to ting
“Wan Ting is warm, sincere, intelligent and perceptive. What I value most about our coaching conversations is her ability to help me see situations from entirely new perspectives through her thoughtful questioning. Through her guidance, I’ve been able to better understand my own thoughts and emotions, and work towards meaningful shifts that feel authentic and lasting. I would recommend Wan Ting to anyone looking for a thoughtful, insightful, and genuinely caring coach.”
M
“What set her apart was the warmth and energy she brought. Her enthusiasm was authentic, and it made the conversation feel alive.”
T
IMPORTANT:
FOR $1,390 UPFRONT or 2 x $750 PAYMENTS,
the long game includes:
6 private 45-min sessions over ~ 6-12 weeks (worth $250 each)
a flexible mix of coaching, practice, profile work, and date reviews
live date practice
full control over meeting online or in person
exclusive whatsapp access and support for the full programme duration
honest feedback on your blind spots
a fully decided-by-you programme
real-world actions between sessions
convenient scheduling at your own time via client-only link
introductory quick hello call
secure payment via stripe after quick hello
Tell me where you are now, and we’ll discuss if The Long Game is right for you. Completely free, private and with no obligations.
let’s do something differently this time.
Free, private and with no obligations.
Secure payment via Stripe only after our call.
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